. Our baby boy needs to stay put for a minimum of three more weeks your well wishes, positive energy, thoughts and prayers are appreciated. I will try to post and keep you updated.
The Thursday Activist- Religous Tolerance
In honor of Religious Freedom Week ( September 22 to October 2 ) commemorating the constitutionally guaranteed right to practice and observe the religion of one's choice, free from government force or prohibition.
I would like to challenge each of you to choose a religion and educate yourself on that religion. Reach out to someone who practices a faith different from yours and learn what you can from them about their beliefs. Keep an open mind, do not judge and do not debate their religion. If they ask you to tell them about your beliefs in return then feel free to do so but this is not about you spreading the word about your beliefs this is about YOU taking the time to open your mind and learn about some one elses. Those of you who keep a blog write about what you learned from this experience if you feel motivated to do so.
I will even give you a place to begin: Religious Tolerance. Org
WTF is up with the DMV? Do they just hand out a license to any fucktard who applies these days? I mean they do still require you to take a written test, drivers test and eye exam correct??? I think they are being lax in their duties either that or every lousy driver in the fucking country relocated to my piss ant town because every time I leave my house I feel like I am playing dodge the dumbass driver. I kid you not between my house and Walmart which is all of maybe five miles I was nearly run over at least a half dozen times. It pisses me off to no fucking end and these morons don't even realize that they just about ran me off the road or smashed into me. They are completely oblivious. Apprently in my town the painted lines on the roads and in the parking lots, the road signs, the stop lights are simply suggestions rather than laws of the road that one may take or leave as they see fit.
Today alone we had two tards driving in the middle of the road almost run us off the side of the road. One fucking moron sit at the GREEN light until it went completely through its cycle and then decide to go. Countless driving challenged cocksuckers run through the stop sign and drive diagonally through the Walmart parking lot. Not to mention the fuckers who back out without so much as glancing behind them. Then there was the jackass who pulled out in front of us like a bat out of hell nearly hitting us and then throwing up his hand as if to say, "ooops sorry". Well guess what I am pregnant, I have kids in the car and your little Oh well.. Im sorry gesture means jack shit to me. I swear I feel like getting out of my car and beating the shit out of thsese people. I can totally understand road rage.
I would also like to know why we continue to give elderly people a license to drive? I mean come on some of these people have no fucking business operating a hoverround let alone a vehicle. Now yall don't get your panties in a twist Im not suggesting that people over 65 shouldn't be allowed to drive but I do think that after a certain age more should be required to have your license renewed. They need to be retested! Some little old lady who could barely see over the damn dashboard pulled out in front of us nearly hitting the car in front of us and causing us to slam on our brakes so that we didnt hit her. The scary part she didnt have a damn clue that she nearly cause a multi-vehicle accident.
Oh and would all of you gossip mongers get off the damn cell phone and pay attention to the road. You stupid fuckers are almost as bad as the drunks.
Don't even get me started on the worthless scum who drink and drive.
What kind of soul are you?
|You Are a Newborn Soul|
You are tolerant, accepting, and willing to give anyone a chance.
On the flip side, you're easy to read and easily influenced by others.
You have a fresh perspective on life, and you can be very creative.
Noconformist and nontraditional, you've never met anyone who's like you.
Inventive and artistic, you like to be a trendsetter.
You have an upbeat spirit and you like almost everything.
You make friends easily and often have long standing friendships.
Implusive and trusting, you fall in love a little too easily.
Souls you are most compatible with: Bright Star Soul and Dreaming Soul
The Thursday Activist - Child Sexual Abuse
Today's topic: Child Sexual Abuse
A poem I wrote after my niece was sexually assaulted.
A brutal man with a cruel heart,
One battered baby and her innocence part.
The frightened child in a woman grown,
A thousand tears for the horror she’s known.
In few short years the devil is free,
In the mirror shattered remnants of me.
Tortured nightmares of a long lost soul,
God I implore Shall I ever be whole?
This is her story.
My niece was brutally raped and beaten when she was 8 years old by a neighbor. She was outside playing with another neighbors child as she had many times before. Her mother went inside briefly to check on laundry and when she came back out her child was gone. The other child had also gone inside and left my niece outside alone. This monster took advantage of those few moments she was left alone and snatched her. He carried her into his home where he raped her and then beat her so badly that she had large contusions on her head, a bloody nose, busted mouth and countless bruises. He put her head into the toilet then slammed the lid down on her head repeatedly. While this is going on my sister n law was frantically searching for her child. She had 911 on the line. A short time later my niece came staggering home. Her mother was horrified when she saw her, her screams were enough to convince the 911 operator to send a police unit and ambulance out immediately. The monster who did this to her had actually threatened her and told her not to tell anyone what happened. What the hell did he think she was going to do considering how she looked there is no way it would go unnoticed. She told her mom exactly what happened and who had done this to her. She was a strong little girl and she has grown into a strong, beautiful woman with two beautiful little girls of her own. The man was arrested as soon as the police were on the scene. She testified against him and he was sentenced to 8 years. He served all 8 of them but in my opinion that wasn't nearly enough. He served 8 years while she has to deal with this for a lifetime.
CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Statistics show that child sexual abuse occurs at an alarming rate. At least one in five girls and one in ten to twenty boys will be sexually abused at some point in their childhood, according to most reliable studies of child sexual abuse in the United States. (Finkelhor,D. (1994). Current information on the scope and nature of child sexual abuse. Sexual Abuse of Children The Future of Children 4(2), 31-69) It is hard to take in this cold hard fact. It means that if you attend a class or concert of 100 people, between 10 and 20 of those in the room were sexually abused as a child.If you think those numbers are an exaggeration think again! In just my small circle of close friends and relatives I can name atleast ten of them who were sexually abused as children including my mother, my girlfriend, good friend susan, two of my cousins and my niece. Out of all of those I know personally who were abused only one of them was abused by a stranger.
A whopping 70 to 90 percent of cases of sexual abuse of children happen at the hands of someone they know, usually a family member or close friend of the family. It is hard to think that someone you know or even love could be an abuser but it is important that you educate yourself on the signs of abuse and even more important that you ACT if you think a child may be suffering. You can view warning signs of abuse HERE including behavioral and physical warning signs, healthy sexuality in children, what to watch out for when adults are with children and alert signals for an adult with sexual behavorial problems.
I want to touch briefly on child exploitation over the internet. I know that many of you have run across child porn while surfing the net and have been just as appalled as I was when I ran across it but had no idea what you could do about it. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children has a website called Cyber Tipline where you can report child pornography or exploitation including things like grown ups using Myspace, Messenger, Chat Rooms and other avenues to entice and exploit children. I've seen this shit first hand and it disgusts me. I have reported more than one incident involving my own child. She just turned 16 and has had more than a few indecent proposals made to her by men via Messenger and Myspace.
Parents PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE monitor your children when they are on the net. I use a keylogger on my PC to keep an eye on my daughter, she knows its there and although at first she felt it was violating her privacy she has come to understand why I insisted.
There are countless websites that deal with Child Sexual Abuse and Exploitation where you can educate yourself and find out how you might help make a difference. I have listed some of them below. Please take some time and explore these websites. There are many ways that you can help from making a donation to volunteering to just spreading the word.
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
Stop It Now
Darkness to Light
Child Molestation Research and Prevention
Prevent Child Abuse America
Child Safe Network - Find Local Sex Offenders
National Sex Offenders Registry
These links are just the tip of the iceburg one day I will make a post compiling all of the links I've accumulated but for now I think this post is long enough and those will get you started.
CHALLENGE: I challenge all who read this post to act! Do something today to help with this cause or another close to your heart. It can be anything from making a post in your blog to promote awareness to making a donation to volunteering. Just do something! Post a comment here to let us know what you did.
WTF is wrong with parents these days? I consider myself very open minded and laid back. I talk openly about sex with my teen daughter. Im cool with her dating at 16. I know the child has had sex and Im sure she will again in the future. Hell I even get to hear details that I could frankly go the rest of my life without knowing and be perfectly happy but I am happy that she can talk to me about things. I preach safe sex, self respect and demanding respect from others, particularly boys. I am not a prude by an stretch of the imagination as you can painly see from my blog so am I the only parent who thinks that other parents must be out of their damn minds to allow their 14 - 17 yr old daughters have their boyfriends over to spend the night?
WHAT THE FUCK IS UP WITH THAT??
My daughter may have her boyfriend over to the house to visit. They must either stay in the living room or if they go into her room the door must remain open. They are permitted to cuddle and steal the occasional kiss but not lay up with each other. I presonally think at 16 she should consider herself lucky that I allow that much.
She thinks that I am too strict because all of her other friends boyfriends get to spend the night with them. I know of atleast three of her friends that are pregnant. Two are 16 and one is 14 and she has to ask WHY, hell I thought it was pretty obvious why. I think these parents need to have some sense smacked into their heads.
I know that kids are going to have sex. I know I can't be with her 24/7 to prevent her from having sex all that I can do is make sure she is educated and protected. She got on birth control earlier this year and has a big supply of condoms so there is no bullshit excuse from the guy that he doesn't have a condom. I think all parents should be responsible enough to be sure their sons and daughters are educated and protected.
Now lets get to the spending the night bullshit. I may not be able to prevent her from having sex but I will be damned if I am going to encourage it and it will be a cold fucking day in hell when I provide her with a place to have sex. Hell NO! The way I see if the boy is old enough to dip his stick he should atleast be able to provide her with a place to do the dipping. If he doesn't have a car and a job so that he can at the very least take her parking or get a hotel room then he shouldn't be fucking in the first place he should be getting off his lazy ass and going to work.
You parents out there who are letting these boys stay the night and not teaching your children about safe sex can you please write to me and tell me WTF you are thinking? Please explain this to me?
Parents get your fucking head out of your ass and wipe the shit out of your eyes!
I don't know about the rest of you ladies but I like to keep my kitty shaved clean. Not only does it just feel better, more sanitary but it doesn't hurt sex wise either. Nothing like flesh against flesh and lets face it no one wants to forge through a jungle to get to the sweet nectar. Personally I prefer that my partner's genitals be clean shaven especially if they enjoy oral sex as much as I do cause nothing kills a moment like hearing PFFFT PFFT PFFT.... followed by a hacking cough coming from between your legs. I hate getting hair between my teeth or stuck in my throat and no fucking way am I touching either a cock or a pussy that has a bush surrounding it. LOL So not only do I keep it shaved for myself but as a courtesy to my partner as well.
So now that we have established WHY I like my hoohah bald lets discuss the methods of achieving said goal.
Hot Wax: Feels great but its expensive and I have to drive to the nearest spa which is almost two hours away so not practical.
Hair Remover such as Nair: No fucking way am I putting these chemicals on my skin let alone an area that sensitive.
Shaving: It’s a hassle and you have to do it continuously but its practical, cheap and once you get used to shaving you don't really have much problem with razor burn.
So I opt for shaving. A few tips for those of you who may be new to keeping your box shiny and smooth.
1. A good razor is a must. I prefer using mens razors I don't know why but for some reason they are much sharper and do not give me razor burn as bad.
2. Use a good shaving cream made for women or a nice hand milled or glycerin soap. Hand milled soaps and glycerin soaps do not dry out your skin like regular soaps.
3. Do not go against the grain shave the direction your hair grows.
4. Use shea butter as an after shave lotion it works better than anything I've ever tried for preventing razor burn. If possible get 100% shea butter you can get it online if you can't find it in stores.
I thought I had snatch shaving down to an art until recently.
I can't fucking see my toes lets alone my pussy. I am seven months pregnant and no matter how hard I try to look over or around my ever expanding tummy I just can't do it. I tried using a mirror but that was a mistake everything is backwards and I about gave myself a lip reduction. I tried to just let it go and not worry about it until after the baby gets here but I can't stand it! I hate hair down there it feels disgusting to me so I decided I had to shave it one way or another. I asked hubby to shave me but he is too afraid he will cut me. My girlfriend would do it but she doesn’t visit often enough to keep it up so I decided what the hell I'll do it myself.
So there I am sitting on the edge of the tub with one leg hiked up on the other edge of the tub. My pussy slathered in hand made soap, a razor in my hand. I know I look ridiculous but the hair must go so I begin to shave, blindly reaching around my tummy and making that first nervous stroke. Applying gentle pressure I slowly move the razor across my bikini line. I pull the razor up and inspect it. WHEW only hair no blood or mangled flesh on the sharp blades. I continue being extra careful in all the new crevices I've acquired during pregnancy. I think to myself I wish I could video tape this because it must look funny as hell. I twist and turn, bend over, hang one leg over the edge of the tub and find myself in a variety of absurd positions as I try to feel and shave my way to a smooth kitty. When I no longer feel any hair I decide to sit on the edge of the toilet with a mirror and try to get those hard to reach spots that I missed.
I look in the mirror impressed with what I've accomplished. It is possible to do a blind shave after all. I slather on some shea butter to ensure that I don't get razor burn and have another look at my handy work. A nice shiny smooth crotch! Now where is my hubby?? I think this shave job is worthy of some tongue appreciation.
The other victims of 9/11
I want to take a moment to talk about the other victims of 9/11
There are other victims of 9/11 that many of you may not know about. They are the volunteers who worked at ground zero following the tragedy. The Firefights, Policemen, Sanitation workers, clean up crews and civilians. These volunteers who gave their time to help others need our help now. Many of them are sick becuase of the toxic air they were breathing while at ground zero helping with rescue and clean up. Many of the volunteers have developed significant health issues from diminished lung capacity to cancer.
Roughly 40% of the 40,000 volunteer workers either never had any health insurance or lost employer-provided coverage after they became too sick to work. In other cases insurance companies denied claims because too much time had passed since the incident and the time the claim had been filed as in the case of one couple who BOTH volunteered and worked ground zero together. The woman of the couple passed away from cancer and the man is currently suffering from diminished lung capacity and other problems. It took three years for the Mesothiloma to show up in his wife and there is no guarantee that it won't appear in him in the future. Mesothiloma is a rare form of cancer caused by exposure to asbestos. The only time she has ever been exposed to asbestos was during the clean up of ground zero.
The gorvernment is doing little to help these people, now why doesn't that come as any surprise? The Bush administration delegated $75 million in federal funding for health treatment for the ground zero workers. This is a start but will not be near enough to cover long term health care for the 40 thousand volunteers. The government needs to step up now! It is shameful that those who did so much to help and asked for nothing in return are suffering now. It just goes to show you that no good deed goes unpunished.
Illness Persisting in 9/11 workers. NY Times
9/11 Volunteer in a Payday Mayday - New York Daily Times
White House Vows to Aid Ill 9/11 Workers
Montel Williams is also doing a show in this topic today with personal stories from individuals including the husband of the woman who passed from cancer that I mentioned above.
I think it is wonderful that so many did tributes for the fallen of 9/11 now let your voices be heard on this topic as well.